There’s one reason why the Brad Pitt’s, Dwayne Johnson’s and Channing Tatum’s of the world can get any woman they want any time they want.  Confidence aka swagger.

If you ask any woman what feature or trait they find most attractive in a man, 9 times out of 10 they’ll say confidence (or some variation of that). Confidence cannot be forced or contrived.  In order to exude confidence, it has to be natural. The following paragraphs will explain what we mean.

Confidence isn’t something that’s worn like a baseball cap or a cheap watch.  It’s a way about you. It’s how you carry yourself.  It’s how you walk, talk and interact with others.  When you enter a room, you command everyone’s attention. The music stops and you become the life of the party.  Anything that was happening before you arrived is irrelevant.

Despite what the media portrays, swagger isn’t measured by how many commas are in your bank account.  The point has to be made that there is a fine line between being confident and being cocky.  We’ve all made the error at some point of mistaking one for the other.

If you don’t recognize the difference between the two, the results rarely end in your favor.  Any woman worth her salt will be able to decipher between the two.  You don’t have to be rude or insensitive to be confident.

In politics the term “flip-flopper” is always thrown around when a candidate is accused of changing his/her positions on certain issues.  You too run the risk of being a “flip-flopper” if you truly aren’t confident but yet pretend to be.  As the saying goes, “do you”.



Even if you’re not into sports or the macho type, you can still exude swagger and confidence.  Focus on one thing that you are good at or passionate about, and develop a story about you around that.

Know a little bit about a lot.  Meaning, learn as much as you can about what’s going on in the world so that you can carry on a conversation with a young lady or anyone you find yourself in the presence of.  You don’t have to be an expert on foreign relations, but intelligence is the single most important weapon you can have in your arsenal.

Swagger is an attitude based on being cool and comfortable with who you are and what you like.  Confidence is like that slow-mo scene in a hip-hop music video.   Imagine walking around with your favorite song playing as the soundtrack to your life.  For the purposes of this article, we’ll use Roc Boys by Jay Z.

We’re all going to have some shitty days, but the key is how you handle these days.  And for a guy with swagger, ultimately that means handling life like a gentleman.

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